BDSM Basics

BDSM is a term you’ve probably heard thrown around when it comes to sex. Yin Q, a BDSM and Kink educator, helps us get to the bottom of what it means. Even if you’ve never felt drawn to these kinds of sexual practices, you may come away with some thoughts for your own sex life, or lift the curtain to a whole new world of play.

The list of kinks and fetishes you can try is near endless. And without a guide, finding yours can feel like exploring without a map. In this session, Yin Q leads you through an exercise in identifying your kinks and fetishes so you can start trying them out. You’ll need a pen and paper to take notes, so have those ready to go before starting the session.

Negotiation might sound like corporate speak, but in BDSM it takes on a new and erotic meaning. In this session, Yin Q guides you step by step in writing a “lust letter”. It’s a sexy way of talking kinks and fantasies while also establishing your boundaries and safe words. You'll want a pen and paper nearby, so grab those before starting the session.

Sometimes the best way to learn is to listen. In this session, Yin Q models how a negotiation conversation between a domme and sub really sounds. Listen in as they explore their desires, reveal their fantasies, and establish their boundaries.

Role play doesn’t have to go from zero to whips and chains overnight. In this session, Yin Q gradually guides you into a dominant headspace and helps you explore ways you can bring dominance into the bedroom. You don’t need any special supplies, but make sure you're somewhere private and comfortable before starting the session.

Letting go feels really good. But sometimes it’s harder than it sounds. In this session, Yin Q guides you through the basics of submissive role play. It’s a way of experiencing pleasure while releasing control on your own terms. Yin will guide you through a few exercises to get you into a submissive headspace before teaching you how to try it out in the bedroom. Before you hit play, make sure you’re somewhere quiet and comfortable.

There’s so much focus on foreplay, but the afterglow is just as important. In BDSM, there’s a whole practice devoted to making sure it’s done right. In this session, Yin Q guides you in mapping out your aftercare practice. It's a time for you and your partner to feel safe, comfortable, and cared for after exploring new territory and pushing your limits.

In this session, Yin Q guides you through the softer side of kink — think silk restraints, hot wax, and blindfolds. You’ll explore the basics of sensation play and learn how you can try it out with a partner. Don’t worry about getting any special supplies, this session is just about listening and learning before you dive in.